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I just stole my girlfriends term “MoHo”… I always loved it when she wrote about her adventures and travel with her MoHo and her pets.
Well Wen, we’ve joined the ranks…
I would have written a post last night but we were busy all day finishing up yard work and then went to my brothers to pick up the motorhome.
Fred is on a timeline so we were up until 2 this morning cleaning and prepping our now 3rd home for occupancy.
3rd home you say? Yes.
Fred and I live with my mom, well, actually I live with my mom.
Fred spends most of his time living and working on the boat.
The F/V Taku has been in dry dock for the past few months and we splashed her last week and took her back to Bellingham.
She still has a lot of work left to be done and while she is under renovation for phase two, Fred be living in our “new” motor home.
It isn’t fancy, but it is clean and it runs. We were laying in the bed above the cab last night, trying it out, and noticed itsy bitsy ants crawling along one of the seems in the ceiling…
As I mentioned, the MoHo needs some work. Nothing I wouldn’t expect as it has been sitting for awhile.
Why does morning have to come soooo early?
It will be another late night tonight. Mom and I are transporting vehicles to Bellingham after work today.
Aristotle isn’t so sure about this latest development…
He’ll adjust though, he’ll just be glad to get back to the dock and see his girlfriends.
Missing my boys already!
I worked for many years developing my “career”… went to school (three times), finished two degrees (a BA and a Masters), and did the “career ladder” thing.
I had plans… BIG PLANS!
I don’t know if my plans were based on what I really wanted (or thought I wanted) or based on a need to prove people wrong… or right.
Or maybe, just maybe, I made my plans based on a need to ensure that I would be able to support myself and my family.
Sure, when I got my first degree I had a plan. That plan was that I would always be able to support myself, and be self-sufficient, it was not that I would become some high-powered executive.
When I got married, many moons ago, I thought that I would be a homemaker. I thought I would be home raising a brood of kids. Serving on PTA committees and volunteering with local organizations. I dreamed of a country garden and growing my own vegetables and sewing my own clothes.
Part of the desire to get a degree and make sure I was “employable” was based on my observations of women who got married, raised a family, and then found themselves alone with no experience, education or ability to support themselves.
That was not going to be me.
After the WASband became ill and I found myself supporting him, I did what I thought I needed to do to ensure that I would be able to support him over the long haul.
The future was uncertain and I was either going to be a widow at some point OR I would be the main income earner. Either way I knew that I needed to go back to school and make sure that I had the education and credentials that I needed to survive.
I learned a lot during that 20 some years. Some of what I learned was that people can really be stupid and insensitive. I can’t tell you how many times people commented that I should be HOME “taking care” of my husband. Really? Were they going to pay the bills and make sure that we had health insurance? When we were first married I was working three jobs in order to support us and make sure he had the care and medications that he needed. Talk to me about staying home after you put food on my table and pay my rent/mortgage. Deal? I didn’t think so.
I have fantasized over the years about what I would really like to “do”… mostly my dreams revolve around self-employment and being creative.
At one point I looked at being a caretaker of a remote mountain retreat. A solitary type of existence where I would be required to rely on myself and develop a wide variety of skills.
As my responsibilities grew at home, I found myself in the healthcare field. Advancing my career relatively quickly with an eye toward becoming a rural health care executive. A small hospital CEO.
Networking was a way of life. I made acquaintances and friends all over the world.
Proud of my “career” and my potential I just kept doing what I thought I needed to do to get ahead.
Was I happy? No, not at all… really. I convinced people that this was what I wanted to do, but the higher up I got in management the more miserable I became.
Maybe part of this was a result of the home environment and the horrible marriage. I did the best I could with what I had but we really didn’t start out all that well to begin with. If he hadn’t of become ill, I highly doubt the marriage would have lasted for as long as it did.
There was an overwhelming sense of responsibility that I had to be everything and take care of everything. After a few years, I actually used my career to escape from home. The busier I was, the less time I had to spend with that miserable @ss of a WASband. I was there when I needed to be and there when he needed me, but anytime I could get away I did. Work was my refuge.
The more money I made the worse it got… he was never satisfied. I could have been the queen of Sheba and independently wealthy and that would not have been enough for him.
I thought I was fooling people, but I wasn’t. Now that I am divorced, I am fully aware of just how obvious the misery was to others. Even if they didn’t say anything.
I have consistently toyed with the idea of following my passion… what that passion is… I am not exactly sure.
There are so many things that I like to do. So many talents and things that I could do. None of them are “traditional” in the sense of having a career and making a living.
I made a HUGE career decision when I moved back to my home town and back in with my mom after my dad passed away. I had enough contacts that I could have gotten a management position in a local hospital but quite frankly I didn’t want one.
When I was interviewing for positions for staff roles I kept getting questions about why I wasn’t looking for a management role, would I be happy in a staff position, and so forth.
No matter what I said, I had a difficult time convincing potential employers that I would be quite happy in a role that did not involve managing people or things. For a change it would be nice to not take work home and that for a change I may actually have a life outside of work.
I have toyed with going back into management… I am a natural leader. I am suited to management. Quite frankly however, I am not suited to working my tail off and not having a life. Not any more. There is not enough money that makes me want to jump back into that life.
With that in mind, I have decided to let my professional certifications and memberships lapse. That was a very difficult decision to make. I worked very hard for those certifications. Very hard. When I got my membership renewal notices in the mail I decided that I was not going to renew them since I was not planning on going back into those fields at a level that would need or utilize them.
My gut wrenched at the thought and then I took a breath and determined that hanging on to them was really just hanging onto a life that I have moved beyond.
I am happier than I have ever been. Sure, I make about what I did when I was first entering my career field but I also do not require the same income that I did. I am learning to live with less. I no longer have to buy my happiness.
The simple pleasures of life really are what is fulfilling.
I recently changed jobs within my company. For awhile there, I was uncertain of my future. The company had merged with a larger organization and I was getting pressure to do work that I really did not want to do. Another position came open and I was fortunate to be offered that work and I am really enjoying it.
I am still in healthcare (generally) but I have moved into IT. A lot of the work I am doing now, I was doing before, but in a different way. I am learning a new discipline and am able to utilize my previous education and experience. My supervisor is professional and does a great job and I am happy to just “be” an employee… I go home at night and I rarely think about work. Perfect!
My dreams now involve finding a way to work with Fred full-time on the boat. I enjoy the physical labor and the time that we spend together. I can see us working together and traveling and really enjoying what we are doing.
Things are so much easier now. Sure, we have to make an income to meet our basic needs and plan for the future. One thing that we do not have to do is keep up with anyone else. Fred and I only compare our lives to what we are wanting to do and what makes us happy.
There is something so freeing about that… it is that feeling that has convinced me that I am doing the right thing and that is abandoning the rat race for a simpler and more pleasant life.
Question: If you could do anything you wanted for the rest of your “career” (LIFE), what would it be? What’s holding you back?
- Forget Your Career And Pursue Your Vocation (juangreatleap.com)
- 11 Things My Son Taught Me about Life & Business (sugarrae.com)
- Perhaps, perhaps, perhaps (frozenmargaritas.wordpress.com)
- If You Could Turn the Clock Back, What Would You Do Differently? (business2community.com)
Well, I posted WordPress’ perspective of 2012 so now it’s my turn to share my perspective on 2012.
2012 was a big year for me. Big, BIG, BIG
Here is a recap of the biggest events in my life for 2012
My daddy passed away – Miss you papa
Left Alaska and moved back home with my mamma and the love of my life – happy to report that the predictions of some that living at home with mom wouldn’t last (bets were 1 week and the other was max – 9 months) – phhhhffffft, we are having a ball. Mom, Fred and I could be described as the three stooges. Lot’s of laughs around here.
Lost my 23 year old furry man… He’d been through it all with me. RIP Sammy… aka “Shitty B’kitty” 03/09/2012
Mom fell and broke her neck… that was a roller coaster but she’s doing well and we continue to yuck it up on a daily basis.
But it wasn’t all bad. I did after all get my first motorcycle and I rode it!
I finished one job and started a new one. Enjoying the fact that I took a job where and work stays at work.
I got busy in June with a new “adventure” – the F/V Taku. I work my regular job during the weekday and spend the weekends with Fred working on the fishing tender.
June was also a month for self-reflection… a lot of self-reflection. The divorce kept getting uglier and I just kept plugging along.
July & August -
No posts in these two months, had to focus on breathing and getting myself out of bed. Yes, I was depressed and just trying to cope. Thank goodness for Fred, my mom, my family and my friends.
My highlights of those months… working with Fred on the F/V Taku
Who would believe that it took me nearly a week to post about my divorce being FINAL!! Woot Woot! It was actually final on August 30th, 2012 but I didn’t post about it until September 8th… probably just wanted to make sure it really happened.
October was pretty awesome but sad too. I officially received my Tlingit name but had to say goodbye to the best mother-in-law that I wish I had… or as close to being the best mother-in-law as I would ever have.
I attempted to focus on everything I was thankful for in November, but in all reality, I am thankful everyday. My life is so different from what it was and I am so very happy. I have a great life.
We had a huge issue with getting our last box of goods shipped from Alaska, thankful that I am persistent and thankful that I am learning to stand up for myself. I can be kind and firm, no need to be bitchy. No one is going to step all over me again… NO ONE!
The highlight of November? A visit from the kids – man I really miss them!
Well, I’ve only posted once so far in December, and this post will be post #2 (and I had better hurry or it will be the first post of 2013!)
December was a very busy month. No time to spare. It was the first Christmas without my dad but it was a good one. The family was together and happy. Just what he would have wanted.
The highlight of the month? Getting our portraits taken for my mom. It was the only thing that she asked for, the only thing that she wanted. A picture of her kids. Four out of five isn’t bad… we were so rowdy that the photographer had to ask us to settle down (not really), but we were laughing so hard we were crying.
We added name labels to a copy of the photo as a cheat sheet for mom… Hello, my name is…
I love my family! They absolutely ROCK!
2013 is going to be a great year. I can feel it. I don’t make resolutions, but I am going to continue to work toward fulfilling my LIFE LIST.
This is the first year that I am truly FREE of the past and it feels good!
The best part of this NEW year? Having my guy by my side… LOVE HIM SO, SO MUCH!!!
HAPPY NEW YEAR PEOPLE! 2013 IS GOING TO ROCK!!!
Today’s thankful moment brought to you by Hostess Twinkies… NOT!
Fred and I got the boat moved from Bellingham to Everett with few incidents. I can’t say no incidents… We had smooth sailing until we got to the Port of Everett, then we got banged around a little bit. Ended up losing an anchor and we think maybe part of the boat.
Thinking back, we had a good trip. Laughing at a seagull who made multiple attempts to land on the boat for a rest, unsuccessfully. Laughing at each other for being silly. Just laughing in general.
I love to laugh. I love my life. I wish everyone could be as happy as I am.
Is it wrong to be thankful for the same thing day after day?
I think NOT!
As I mentioned in another post, I wake up thankful everyday.
It isn’t like I’m going to stop being thankful once my “30 Days of Being Thankful” are up.
I am; thankful for my health. Thankful for my family. Thankful for my job.
On days like today, I am thankful for the man that I love… Even more than usual.
I’m learning so many new things. About the world and about myself.
I didn’t have the confidence that I do now. But then again, I didn’t have the loving and supportive partner that I am currently blessed with… Well, except for my singing… He keeps saying
What DID you do with the money your momma gave you for singing lessons? (dripping with sarcasm)
I was afraid of the 21 foot boat that was in my driveway, but now I realize that was because of the person who owned it. Fred is such a breath of fresh air in my life.
We were expecting rougher seas today… I’m thankful that so far this trip has been pretty smooth sailing. The nine hour trip from Bellingham to Everett would be no fun in choppy seas.
One last thing I am thankful for?
Hot water and the bubble bath that I am going to get to take once I get back home. Not liking the smell of myself too much right now…
Thankful that we all (Fred, Tot and me) smell about the same.
You know a man loves his dog when he is willing to lug the 80 lb mutt 30 feet down a metal ladder covered in barnacles to a boat down below… In howling winds… Barefoot (just kidding on that last part.)
It’s dark so it is hard to see what I am talking about, I held my breath, afraid I would lose them both. It was like looking over the edge of an abyss. It was dark and they disappeared into nothingness as they descended the ladder.
The WASband once said
You love those damn animals more than you love me
Why yes, yes I did.
Now I truly love someone as much as I love my furry kids, and he loves them as much as I do. And they love him too, and he loves me. One big happy family we are.
Going to be a long day tomorrow. We are moving the boat from Bellingham to Everett and into dry dock for some much needed love and attention.
I have a feeling it’s going to be a bumpy ride.
I got a little behind… We’ve been having so much fun with the kids I haven’t been taking the time to post regularly.
What am I thankful for lately?
November 6 - the ability to see some incredible sites in Seattle and that there are so many fun things to do with the kiddo’sSo much to do, so little time…
November 7 -
Really, really thankful that the elections are done and over with. Thankful that I live in a state that recognizes that legal marriage between two people who love each other, irregardless of their sexual preference, is important for some and that it is okay.
I don’t get how some people believe that marriage between one man and one woman is better or more important than a marriage of two people who love and respect each other. The rhetoric from the opposing camp was pretty disgusting and not at all convincing.
Now, if we can just keep moving forward and quit putting roadblocks in the way of solving real problems.
November 8 -
I am amazed at the amount of “hate” language being used to express opinions of “love, light, and truth”… It doesn’t matter what you believe, you will be more effective with words that actually reflect what you are trying to say.
Being hostile to or resulting to the name calling toward those who don’t agree with your opinion doesn’t make your opinion more valuable (or heard).
If you want peace, love and light, BE peace, love and light. Anger breeds anger, it doesn’t solve problems.
I am so thankful that I had loving role models that taught me to question, listen and be open to other ideas. We create our world… let it be something positive and nurturing.
November 9 -
A new day. Thankful for new beginnings. Thankful for new memories.
November 10 -
Another great day with the kiddo’sLove, love, love the planes… we even got to walk through the debut of NASA’s Space Shuttle Trainer in its new home in the Simonyi Space Gallery
And more planes…
And the perfect end to a perfect day?
Brrrrr, it was cold!
The kids arrived this morning for a visit… we have a lot of fun plans for things to do while they are here.
So much to do and thankfully they will be here for a few days. We have been really looking forward to their visit… we miss them so much!
I love our family…
Our little “Alaska Girl”… Singing about Salmon.
- Do you earn enough money?
- I DO! I currently earn less than I did in 2001 and over 2/3 less than what I earned last year, but I am happier and healthier than I have ever been.
- One thing I have learned, I will spend as much money as I make. The more I make, the more I spend.
- I’ve been “broker” and I’ve been “wealthier”, and more money did not equal more happiness… but I knew that already.
- I am working to become debt free and it is amazing just how much more you can do with less when you pay cash for everything.
- Do you enjoy your job?
- I DO! I made a major career change last year. I decided that I was done with “management” and that I needed a break.
- All of my education, training, certifications and licenses assisted me with career advancement, and quickly, but the closer I got to my “career dream/goal” the unhappier I became.
- The higher up the ladder I got the further away from the “people” I got.
- What do I like best about my current clerical support role? I get to go home after my “day” and work stays at work. It’s heaven.
- Do you prefer Saturday or Monday?
- I prefer Saturday’s, but not because I dislike Monday’s. I look forward to going to work and I like the people I work with.
- I get to sleep in on Saturday’s (well most of the time) and I get to go on adventures.
- Actually, if you must know, I LOVE Friday evenings. That is the day during fishing season that I head up to be with my baby… I miss being with him during the week so I look forward to the weekends specifically because we get to be together doing things that we love.
- What would you like to be doing one year from now? Can you make that happen?
- One year from now I plan on resting up from my Rim to Rim trip across the Grand Canyon that I will be taking at the beginning of October 2013.
- I am behind on my conditioning routine but I will make this trip happen, one way or another.
- What would you like to be doing five years from now? Will you make that happen?
- In five years I would like to be working and living on the boat with Fred. We have plans for our future. The next five years will be key in making those plans happen.
- It will involve living on a strict budget, putting away as much money as we can into an emergency fund and then investing/saving for our future (read retirement).
- It will involve paying off of our debt and staying away from credit.
- We can and WILL do this.
- What would you do with your life if you were a billionaire? Is it possible to live a modified version of that life anyway?
- I don’t need that much money. As I said, money doesn’t make people happy. Sure you need money to live but just how much money does one person need? Not that much.
- If I were a billionaire I would live off of a modest income each year. I would figure out how much money it takes to live the lifestyle that Fred and I would like to live (which doesn’t require much) and invest enough money to provide that income. We would still need to budget for the “extra’s”.
- I would spend more time volunteering and exploring.
- Whatever was left over I would invest and then use those proceeds to fund various charities and help others because I could.
- I feel like a billionaire already – I have everything I need, I just need to do a better job managing what I have.
- How much could you cut your outgoings by? How much time at work does that equate to?
- I can cut down A LOT! I am a spender… to my detriment.
- I love books.
- I am an impulse spender.
- Being that I do not want to increase my work hours or even my income (at this point) I am going to have to buckle down and just stop spending.
- I believe that with future goals in mind, and a partner who is committed to reaching those goals with me, we will both create and stick with a budget knowing that if we sacrifice the incidental stuff now we will be able to do what we want in the future.
- Do you have enough spare time to do the things you really enjoy? If not, why not?
- Not really. I waste time. I get sidetracked.
- A lot of my time in the past year was consumed with finalizing my divorce, moving, family “stuff”, and now it is getting things sorted and taken care of. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel however, and I do believe that I will have more time to do the things I really enjoy.
- On the other hand, I believe that you make time for the things that you really want to do. If doing “things” I really enjoyed was important at this moment in time I truly believe I would make the time for them. I did that when I had a goal of hiking 50 trails in 52 weeks.
- No complaining here, I just need to “do it!”
- What takes up a lot of your time but is neither unavoidable, rewarding nor enjoyable? Why don’t you cut that/them out immediately, or pay somebody to do it for you?
- Well, I can’t say it takes a lot of my time because I avoid it like the plague! I can find anything to do other than housekeeping or paying bills.
- Can’t afford a housekeeper at this point and again, I just need to do it and get it out of the way. It isn’t rewarding because no matter how much you clean things get dirty again.
- Bills? I am working on cutting those out completely… working on paying things in advance so that I don’t have to worry about them every month.
- As soon as I get my finances in order I plan on hiring an accountant/financial adviser to assist with the money stuff.
- What mildly pleasant, but pretty pointless things do you fritter too much time doing? How many times a day do you check your email/Twitter/Facebook? How much TV do you watch?
- During my work day I really don’t fritter away my time. I am busy and I like that. No time to play around. That is one of the things I like about my current position.
- Home? now that is another story. I only check my email twice per day. I check Facebook in the AM and once at lunch or on break and then again at night. TV is on but I rarely watch it.
- What do I spend most of my time on? (Off-work hours) Blogging – reading, writing or responding to my blog or other blogs.
- Sitting around doing nothing when I should be doing something.
- What would you like to do more of?
- Being more physically active.
- Spending time outdoors.
- Hiking in the mountains and having adventures (and then blogging about them!)
- What motivates you to do something well?
- Personal goals and satisfaction – a feeling of accomplishment.
- CHALLENGES – if it isn’t challenging I don’t find it interesting. I like doing things that require me to stretch and get out of my comfort zone.
- Learning new things. I like being the best at what I do, but really only in terms of competing with myself. Am I doing the best that I can do?
- Who do you envy, and why?
- Honestly? NO ONE! I don’t have time to compare myself to others. It is a waste of valuable time that I can be using to improve myself and help others.
- If you were 100 and looking back on your life, would you be happy with a life well-lived?
- Well, being that 100 is 54 years away, I would certainly hope so.
- I really didn’t start living until just a few years ago and I spent way too long in an unhappy marriage.
- I can’t look back, I can only look forward and if the past two years have been any indicator of things to come I know that things will just keep getting better. It was a rough two years in “divorce land” but they were also two pretty incredible years in regard to growth and personal development.
- If I am not happy during the next 54 years, I will only have myself to blame.
- What makes you proud, satisfied, and content?
- I am proud that I have survived the challenges in my life and that I am making better choices for myself.
- I am not sure that I will ever be satisfied… I am always seeking to improve myself but I can say that I am content. Life is good and it will continue to get better.
- There is nothing that I will not be able to handle. I have the tools and the resources and I had some great training thanks to my fabulous parents.
- What makes you frustrated, bored, and unfulfilled?
- I am a lot less frustrated now that I am out of my toxic marriage.
- I am in control of my own responses to life.
- If I am bored, that is my own fault. There are a lot of great things out there and no reason to be bored. No reason what-so-ever.
- Unfulfilled? Amazingly enough I am feeling more fulfilled now that I have given up the illusion of “success” that is defined by others. Getting out of the rat race and focusing on creating healthy relationships has really changed my perspective.
- What would you do if you had more talent?
- What? I’m not ultra talented? Hahahahaha
- Actually I would like to be able to get my ideas “out”… whether it be in writing or visually through drawing, handwork, painting or electronically.
- I am BRILLIANT (in my head) and if I could do anything I would like to be able to express myself in the way that I see it.
- What would you do if you had more guts?
- Scale tall mountains and not be afraid of “scary” heights or ledges.
- Guts aren’t something that I lack… I think if anything, I need more confidence. What I portray sometimes is not what I am feeling.
- What would you do with your life if nobody was watching, judging or commenting?
- Exactly what I am doing just more of it. LIVING!
- My motto has become
“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well-preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘Holy s— what a ride!’” ~ Hunter S. Thompson
- As long as I continue to be kind, thoughtful, considerate and truthful, I think it will all work out just find.
And last but not least…
20. What are you going to do about all this? Continue on my path. Be true to myself and be gentle during those times when I am not living up to my own expectations.
- 20 Questions Worth Answering Honestly (And My Responses) (jonmaiden.wordpress.com)
Don’t know when. Don’t know for how far. Don’t know for how long… but it is on my list.
Being that I am also wanting to hike/walk the The Camino de Santiago de Compostela, my preference is that I be able to do this with my man.
We have some hoops to jump through before he can get a passport again… another goal on my Life List (just not a written goal).
I can’t imagine having any of these adventures without him. He is the love of my life. I love every moment that I get to spend with him.
We actually have a lot of hoops to jump through before we get to LIVE… we’ll get there though. Together.